I HAVE started a Bucket List, but then I started to wonder how many people do that (which I’m sure there are a LOT!), BUT, how many people actually make a VALIANT effort to check things off their Bucket List. I’ve even made a Bucket List for my Dog, Scarlet. I think she has more things checked off than I do! I think all of us that do start a Bucket List, of course, have the best of intentions of checking as many things off as they can. But life can get in the way, and so does THE LIST! My list changes and I add (and remove things) sometimes, depending on what my priorities are at that time in my life. And although I work in Fashion and have quite the collection of clothes, shoes, etc….. There isn’t one thing on my list that even refers to GETTING more. I know I’m not taking my clothes with me, but I know I can enjoy them while I’m here.. 😉
Most of my own personal Bucket List has to do with my Career in Fashion and My Life, but like I said, it constantly changes and I’m always adding things. This is (a very small version) of what I have listed right now…
MY BUCKETLIST (** means I’m DOING it or have DONE it):
1. Get into FASHION as my CAREER**
2. Get a Promotion at Work into Designer Clothing (my passion is Designer!)
3. Start a BLOG**
4. Get Awarded ‘ALL-STAR’ at NORDSTROM**
5. Live in MANHATTAN for a few years and work at the new Nordstrom
6. Meet the Love of my Life
7. Get Married
8. Have a child (still undecided about this only because I’m getting older VERY quickly lol).
9. Write a Book
10. Learn how to stay present and enjoy every moment.
10. Hike a 14ner and spend more time Outdoors
11. Gain 15 lbs of Muscle through CrossFit
12. Eat Healthier
13. Take better Care of Myself
14. FEEL Financially Stable
15. Learn to Snowboard
16. Get up the Mountain each Year to Ski/Snowboard at least 4 times
17. Enjoy EVERY moment with my precious Scarlet. She’s not going to be around nearly long enough!**
18. Take my FASHION CAREER to the TOP!
19. Collaborate with a Famous Designer who I Love & Believe in!
20. Read more Books
Bucket Lists? I suppose it’s just a morbid way of saying ‘Goals’ without adding, ‘before you die’!
I’dlovetohearwhatsomeofyour BUCKET LISTS look likeandwhat GOALS youhavesetforyourself, whethershortorlongterm! Pleaseshare!
Thanks for reading, my friends… I hope you enjoyed. And good luck with your Bucket List. You only live once, so check off as many things as you can. Make sure that when your life flashes before your eyes, it’s worth the view!
As I have gotten older, my priorities, dreams, goals, aspirations, and my bucket list have all changed. I suppose that is normal for all of us. For instance, when I was in college at The University of Florida, I had a serious boyfriend…My first true love. I thought we would be together forever. I just KNEW he was ‘THE ONE’ and after college, we would move in together (which we did), and that would eventually lead to marriage and the family I thought I always wanted. Well….that didn’t quite work out the way I had expected. After we broke up, the next 10 years of my life were spent wasting time and wandering aimlessly from place to place, job to job, etc. Fast forward to now, and my life is nothing like I had imagined it would be. I thought I’d be married with 2 or 3 kids and possibly being a stay-at-home mom by now. It’s funny how life DOESN’T turn out the way you expected. I know one day it will be revealed why, and I’m sure I’ll be glad.
Fast forward to today, and it’s 6:00am here in Denver (a place I’d never thought I’d end up living!), I’m having my morning coffee, and writing to you all. I’ll be getting ready for work here soon… It’s obvious now that I work in Fashion. And kind of strange too when I think about it. I was never interested in Fashion when I was younger. I was a competitive swimmer for 10 years and kind of a tomboy. I never really got dressed up, or wore any makeup (or even knew how to apply makeup until I was much older). My Passion for Fashion is something that has developed slowly over the years, and has gotten stronger, until I finally knew that working in Fashion was going to be my career. Now, I live, work, think, and dream about Fashion! And not in that selfish, ‘what will I wear or what can I buy’ kind of way. In the almost 2 years working at Nordstrom, I’ve come a long way! I’ve developed my own edgy sense of style, I’ve learned SO much and will continue to learn, and I’m so grateful to have finally found a job that I’m passionate about and that has so much room to grow into basically whatever I want. I’ve learned that I have a serious Passion for Designer Fashion, and that THAT is where I eventually want to work in. Before working at Nordstrom, there were so many designers I had never even heard of, and now it would be odd to hear a designer and NOT know who that is! I’ve done well in a very short amount of time at Nordstrom, I’ve become the top seller in my department, have many customers that I’ve built relationships with and even made friends with, I’ve gotten the coveted All-Star Award, which is basically the highest honor you can get at Nordstrom. However, I feel like I have so much more potential that isn’t being utilized right now. But, I’m not writing any of this to brag about my accomplishments. It’s actually quite the opposite. The quote below basically sums up the way I feel about my career. I finally feel Peace and now know I’m where I’m supposed to be.
Before Fashion, I always felt like something was missing in my life and every job felt wrong. I didn’t want to go through my whole life working a job that I had absolutely no passion for. I finally feel at Peace knowing that I have at least found my dream career, if nothing else! And like the quote below, it REALLY is a beautiful thing when a career and a passion come together. I know that doesn’t happen for a lot of people, so I feel very blessed.
Life is still not perfect by any means… I am still single, I don’t have the boyfriend/husband/kids that I always thought I wanted. I’m still not convinced that I want that, or if I’ve been ‘taught’ to THINK I want that. It’s hard enough juggling my job, spending time with my friends, working out, eating well, etc. Throw in kids and a husband, and I don’t know that I would have found this career, or been happy with the things I just mentioned, which are the things I always THOUGHT I wanted! Maybe I’m just not ready for those things yet, so in the meantime, I’m going to make everything I can of this great career, because the sky is the limit. Again, funny how things DON’T work out the way I thought they would!
So, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned it’s ok to be single, and have learned (or rather, am learning), to accept this. Maybe I’ll meet the man of my dreams tomorrow. Or maybe it may take a little longer. I have learned it’s not as easy as it used to be, and he’s not going to come knock on my door. I have to put myself out there more. But, I’m just going to do my thing and focus on my career. I don’t know what God or the Universe has in store for me, so I’m just going to to have faith and BELIEVE that there’s a bigger plan! There are some perks and drawbacks to being single, but I’m going to do my best to focus on the positive! I still can’t imagine that God would plan for me to be alone forever. Plus, I’m not alone… I have Scarlet!
I’ve also learned that life is too short…. So buy the shoes, go on that vacation, spend more time with your family and friends (pet family included), train for that marathon, hike that 14ner, go somewhere you’ve never been, don’t waste time (but relax when you need to), and spend every moment being GRATEFUL that you get to live in this beautiful, albeit flawed, world, and never take advantage of time. It goes by so fast…..
As far as my Bucket List, that’s a whole other post in general. Spoiler Alert – NYC is part of that plan.. so stay tuned!
I am doing a very cool photo shoot soon (Thursday Oct. 4th!) that basically will showcase myself wearing some of my Designer Clothing. I’ve had this vision for quite some time now… It’s basically a ‘Glam Meets Grunge’ photo shoot (will elaborate shortly), and I am finally doing it! The vision I had was to showcase some of my Designer Items in an Industrial area of downtown Denver with old dilapidated buildings, dirt roads, and train tracks in the background. The photographer found just what I had envisioned and is actually excited to do this shoot, and I think, impressed with my vision!
Below are some features of the outfits I put together for the shoot. My next post will be the finished product and the best pics! I am pretty excited and nervous, although I feel a bit better now that I have my outfits…
In this first picture below, I’ll be wearing both dresses with my Prada Combat Boots. I probably won’t wear jewelry in these, as the dresses and boots pretty much speak for themselves and I don’t want to take away from the focus on them.
In this picture below, I’ll be wearing the White Sequin Dress the Population Dress and walking barefoot with train tracks in the background and holding my Sam Edelman heels. I’ll wear some minimal Alexander McQueen Jewelry and possibly a pair of the sunglasses shown below.
This outfit below will be worn as such: Smythe Blazer with the Black Free People Bodysuit, Gold Snake Necklace, and Calvin Klein Black Leather Knee High Boots – And that’s it! I want to show off the blazer, because it is exquisite, so I’m basically just wearing that. I’m wearing the Bodysuit just to make sure my lower half is covered! I’m not trying to show it all, ya know?! I think that this will look very cool though!
My final outfit will be the Red RtA Leather Pants with my Black Gucci Belt, Alexander McQueen Neck Scarf, probably a sheer Black Bodysuit with either a plain Black Bra or Black Bralette. I included the Valentino Heels that I MAY wear, but I also may just pair with some plain Black Heels to keep it simple.
Here is what I have envisioned for the location. This is the ‘Grunge’ part of my shoot! I don’t know exactly what it looks like yet, but the photographer told me there were train tracks and an old warehouse, which is perfect! Also, combining high-end Designer Items like DVF, Prada, RtA, etc., above is just the juxtaposition I was looking for!
My outfits that I have picked are tentative and may change slightly prior to the shoot, so make sure to check back for the finished product..
Wish me luck on this photo shoot. I have to go get everything put together and practice what Tyra Banks calls “Smizing“, which is smiling with your eyes. And so far I’m not too good at that. I either smile, or I just look mean when I try to smile with my eyes! I did some modeling when I was much younger, but it was mostly Runway Modeling because I was tall and had a good walk, and usually you don’t have to smile much in runway shows, depending on what the designer wants you to do. But photos are much different, and this isn’t really a shoot I can be having a big smile on my face the whole time – that doesn’t really go with the theme. So I’ll be practicing my ‘smizing’ in the mirror up until the shoot lol. Hopefully I can master it! If any professional models out there have any advice on this, please feel free to leave a comment! I’d love any feedback..💕
Thanks again for reading, as always, and stay tuned for the final professional pictures when the shoot is done!
I wanted to share one of the joys I have with my job in the Fashion World. Since I work at Nordstrom as a Stylist/Sales Associate, I have the opportunity to be around beautiful clothes all day long (yeah, I know… good for my style, not so good for my paycheck😉). But that’s a whole other story. One would think that working at a high end department store like Nordstrom would require a certain ‘look’ or ‘clothing requirement’, but it’s actually quite the opposite! They give us great liberty in our clothing and style choices and want us to express ourselves with our clothing and personal style. They also don’t discriminate against tattoos or piercings, etc. (within reason, of course). When I first started working there, I asked my new manager if there were any dress requirements or any ‘no’s’ as far as what I could NOT wear to work. She explained that Nordstrom was pretty lenient, but to use good judgment. So of course, I took that and ran! I didn’t have to dress a certain way or wear anything I wouldn’t normally wear! I could pretty much wear whatever I wanted, aside from pants with holes in the butt or crop tops or skirts that were WAY too short, which I wouldn’t wear to work anyways, or anywhere else for that matter. I have an EDGY style, not a SLUTTY style 🙀!
Since working at Nordstrom for almost 2 years now, I’ve really ‘come into my own’ as far as my style goes. I know who I am and what I like to wear, what I feel good in, and I’ve developed a personal style like none other. So many of my Associates know my style so well, that they will bring me certain items from their own departments and just plop them in front of me and walk away, which I know just means that they think I would like that piece and/or it’s totally my style. I always say I have an ‘Edgy Style’, but I think I really have a ‘Classy Style with an Edge’. I love to dress up designer denim with a cool blazer and heels, and add some YSL or Alexander McQueen jewelry to give my outfit that extra something special. Yesterday I showed my manager a dress by Gal Meets Glam that I thought was pretty, but maybe a bit too ‘sweet’ for me, and asked her if she liked the dress for me. She said she loved the dress, but if it was going to be for me, she said I’d need to add something edgy to make it a little more ‘me’… totally made sense!
Here are some of my favorite outfits I’ve gotten to wear to work: Veronica Beard Blazer
Alexander McQueen Neck Scarf and Double Ring
Alexander Wang Denim jacket, Alexander McQueen neck scarf, Red True Religion Jeans, simple Black Top, Black Gucci Belt, and A.S.98 Black Boots
White Mural Blazer, Halogen Mock Neck Burgundy Tank, and Sam Edelman Black Heels
Tularoosa Blazer and True Religion Jeans
Gucci ‘Vintage’ Sneakers
DVF Black Blouse & L’Agence Jeans
DVF Yellow Shimmer Blouse with L’Agence Jeans
I purchased the collection below by Rachel Zoe, but have yet to wear them to work. I may need to get an some alterations first before wearing these beauties!
I also purchased the items below by Derek Lam, Bailey 44, and David Lerner. I wore the David Lerner black striped leggings so far, but the other items I’d like to wear when the weather gets a little cooler. We are still in an unusually hot Summer here in Denver ( up to 100 degrees – STILL!).
Vince Camuto Blazer, Halogen White Top, Balmain red heels, Gucci Belt, and Gold Snake Necklace
Mural Black Blazer, Gray Ribbed Dress, and my new favorite heels by Sam Edelman (Also got the nude after they went on sale!)
Alexander Wang Denim Jacket over Gray Ribbed Dress
Red Bodysuit, Frame Jeans, Gucci belt, and Silver Snake Long Necklace
Black TopShop Bodysuit, AG Jeans, and Red Leith Sock Booties
Ted Baker Dress
Leopard print top and True Religion Jeans
And my latest obsession is this Marc Jacobs Denim Mickey Jacket, which I can’t stop thinking about. I’m not a huge Mickey fan, but the jacket is so cool, unique, and edgy, that I may end up just going for it!
OK, that was just a small feature on some of my fave outfits that I wear to work, with this last pic being something I’d really like to get. We’ll see if the budget can handle this….
I’m always taking pictures of inventory that arrives at work. I’ll post more later, and continue to post my work outfits as well.
Thanks for reading, my friends!
Stay tuned for more stylish outfits! xoxo Jess from Fashion & Style by J Rose 🌹
Good morning, everyone! Happy Monday! I know, I know, Monday – blah, blah, blah… I think that for most of the human race, Monday means back to work, back to school, back to the diet, back to working out, and possibly a bit hungover after weekend partying,… basically, back to reality! Does even one of these sound right? Most of us are wired to think that all of theses things are negatives (well, I think we can all agree that being hungover really IS a negative). I’m certainly guilty of it too. Monday comes around and we get depressed and then work hard all week long, all the while looking forward to the weekend, and sometimes forgetting to stay in the moment and just enjoy where we are right now. But how do we do that?! How do we stay in the moment and enjoy each day, when we don’t really enjoy each day?
Sometimes I feel that if I don’t have the best day, or the best moment, or something happens that brings me down, or nothing happens and I’m just feeling down for no real reason, I need to change that feeling or circumstance! Of course, there are certain things we can change, but it’s also OK to NOT have a great day! It’s OK to feel a bit down one day. It’s not a reason to rethink our whole lives and figure out what’s wrong, and why, and how I can be happy RIGHT NOW! We are a society of ‘RIGHT NOW’… immediate gratification. “I want to feel good NOW!” The fact is, we all have bad moments and bad days, but they are fleeting and will pass. I’m certainly not a psychologist, but I do have some experience with this issue. I’ve always been a ‘Right Now’ kind of person. I wang to feel better NOW. But I’m trying to rewire my brain to know that these bad moments aren’t really so bad, embrace the feeling, know that it will pass, and move on without changing my whole life because of a bad day.
In some cases, I think maybe changes do need to made in our lives. For example, if we are consistently miserable with our life, then maybe it’s time to rethink some things. Make a list: What do you enjoy about your life? What do you hate in your life? Are any of the ‘hates’ things that can be changed? Are any of your ‘likes’ things that can be done more of? Is a job or career change necessary? Maybe we’ve been thinking about going back to school? Maybe we’ve been thinking about partying less on the weekends so the hungover Monday’s go away? Those are things that can be changed if we are consistently unhappy. But if we are just having moments of unhappiness or sadness, then that’s ok too. Those feelings do go away without making a major life change!
Embrace the bad, the good, and the ugly. All those feelings will pass. Unfortunately, even the good ones’. And I’m one to want to make a ‘location’ change every time I feel something negative for long periods of time. Irrationally, I’ve always thought that if I move, things will get better, and in my past, I’ve moved countless times in the hope that “things will be better if I move”. But our problems follow us wherever we go. I’ve learned that lesson the hard way with countless moves. And let me tell you, it definitely didn’t help. If anything, it made my life worse..No more moving for me unless it’s for the right reasons.
Do something different. Change your routine. Make plans for the weekend or when you have a day or 2 off of work. Go do something you’ve wanted to do for a while – start a new workout with a friend, make consistent plans with friends, go hiking or walking, go on a weekend get-away occasionally…. do SOMETHING different!! Find a passion, and DO it! Make time for yourself. Take care of yourself – mentally and physically. And switch things up a bit too. If you run outside, find some new running routes. For example, I live in Colorado and there are a ton of great outdoor activities to do year round. I’ve always wanted to hike a 14ner ((14,000 foot mountain). This will get me outside in nature, and the rewarding views from the top are supposed to be incredible! What better way to boost my endorphins than with demanding physical activity with beautiful views (and bragging rights😉), when I reach the top!
5. Go the Distance and Make Goals…
Whatever it is that you decide to do, do it with with all of your HEART & SOUL! No ‘half-assing’ anything! Take on a project… something that you normally wouldn’t do. And do it with vigor and excitement, even if you have to fake it at first. Like they say, “Fake it ’till you make it”.
My plan is to take my own advice. I’m going to plan better, make more time for myself (mentally and physically). And I know I can’t rewire my brain overnight, so that will be a constant work in progress that I’ll have to work hard at. But I’m willing to do it! We only live once. This is our only life, and I personally don’t want to have regrets. I’m going to live my life with purpose and grace, follow my dreams, work hard, and know that every day won’t be perfect. But it’s the journey that I’ll remember more than the destinations. I’m going to LIVE my life! And you can LIVE your life too!
I hope this lil short Monday Inspirational Post will help someone out there! Good luck to you all! If this post helped any of you, please comment and let me know. We need to inspire each other! Now, I need to take my own advice… thanks for reading! xoxo Jess from Fashion & Style by J Rose 🌹